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Lindsay G. Cassada 

Gloria Browder-Parham

804-717-2492 (FAX)

If you are in danger or need immediate assistance, dial 911 

Monday - Friday
8 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.

Mailing Address
Chesterfield Domestic & Sexual Violence Resource Center
PO Box 741
Chesterfield, VA 23832-0040

Street Address
10111 Krause Road, Suite 210
Chesterfield, VA 23832


Courthouse Address
Juvenile and Domestic Relations District Court
7000 Lucy Corr Boulevard
Chesterfield, VA 23832 


Domestic and Sexual Violence Resource Center
Why Victims Stay

People often wonder, "Why doesn't she just leave?", without understanding the complications of ending an abusive relationship.   

Fear - a victim may

  • be paralyzed due to threats such as, "If you try to leave, I'll kill you."
  • be aware that leaving is often the most dangerous time 

Lack of Money/Resources -  A victim may

  • be financially dependent on their partner. Without money, they may feel impossible to leave the relationship

Believes Abuse is ‘Normal’ -  A victim may

  • not know what a healthy relationship looks like
  • not realize their relationship is unhealthy, or ‘abnormal’

Children - A victim may

  • believe they are breaking apart the family

Embarrassment or Shame - A victim may

  • be embarrassed
  • fear victim-blaming

Love - A victim often

  • hopes things will change.
  • remembers the onset of the relationship, prior to the abuse, and hopes their partner will return to that person.

Fear of Being ‘Outed’ -  A victim may  

  • fear an abusive partner may reveal their partner’s LGBTQ status, which can be frightening if the victim has not come out

Cultural/Religious Reasons - A victim may 

  • choose to remain in the relationship for fear of bringing shame to their family, due to traditional gender roles supported by someone’s culture or religion 

Language Barriers - A victim may

  •  find it difficult to express the depth of their situation to others, if English isn’t their first language

Immigration Status - An undocumented victim may 

  • fear their immigration status will be affected if they report the abuse.